What Is A Relationship? | Real Talk

Good afternoon ladies and gents of the X-Army, hope you are doing better than I am currently. I am upset, disgusted, and outright fuming by a little video I was introduced to. In today’s Real Talk I will be talking about What Is A Relationship and my opinion on them. Seems that today’s men and women are so dopamine addicted that the simple idea of working at a relationship is too hard. Without any further ado, let’s get to it.

Definition Of Relationship |

An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy. Although an intimate relationship is commonly a sexual relationship, it may also be a non-sexual relationship involving family, friends, or acquaintances.

Relationships From My Perspective |

When I look at relationships I think of three main pieces I had to work at. One with my mother, with my former girlfriend, and one with Christ. To me each plays a vital role in how I treat the individuals I choose to have in my life and associate with. The relationship with my mother was never a good one in the early stages through my teen years. I found her to be strict and overbearing to deal with. I found the implimentations she placed on my to focus on school mainly and no social like in High School to be unfair. Now how I dropped my selfish ways and learned to see my mother not as a anchor but as one of my best friends currently was when she had a breast cancer scare. She herself was scared and I was there to comfort her. I get a majority of my traits from my mother and I had to learn that the reason she was such an outspoken person was because she was never heard as a child. Through time, patience, and me learning to trust the word she says we developed a proper relationship that knows no bounds. I love my mother to this day and I found the ways I acted in my youth served zero purpose. So that was my mother/son relationship I had to work at.

Next is my relationship with my former girlfriend. My ex was the best romantic relationship I have ever had. It was never a relationship that was built on sex or false impressions. I mean I did do a ton of cheesy one-liners, but she said herself she liked how corny I am. It was a relationship that was structurally built on faith, patience, and understanding. It was through her I developed the notion that no two people are the same. We lasted til when I was 17 to 23 and they were the best years I ever experienced with someone that I literally had to develop foundations for and for her to trust that she is safe with me. I can also add in the Christ based relationship here also. It was with my ex I deeply got into my spirituality at bible studies, learning how to properly pray, and through reading. I owe my level of faith to both my ex and the hunger I had to learn more. It is true that women motivate men to better themselves and with my ex it was that case when I dug further into my faith. These are examples of me having to work at aspects of my life to build on relationships that I now use as a guide for whom I allow into my life and so on.

The Inspiration For This Post |

I don’t want to give this idiotic woman further traction on the sheep she currently has and I do not want to sound sexist by any means. This lady on YouTube has placed a video that suggests that couples should try Cuckolding to make their relationships better. Now call me closed minded, but is this really where we as a society are going. I constantly hear of people introducing an extra partner into their relationships to spice it up and to add to their love. That everything just happened organically. That their is no jelousy in the relationship and that everyone is equal. The only question I have to this is, Are we as a society that bored? So one person is not enough? Are we basing all our decisions in life on feeling and not logic?

I am from the school of monogamy and the difficulty it took to have patience and meet my ex for a worthy relationship that required work is something I never took for granted. I understand in this society every voice matters, every opinion is valid, and no one is wrong. Freedom of speech is a bitch, but sometimes you have to question if people who speak nonsense don’t think before they speak. As a sex/relationship coach as she claims to be, how is having a man have sex with your wife/girlfriend while you watch in a corner something healthy? I had to look up some of the accurate definitions of this “healthy” relationship and I am just surprised that I exist in this world. I felt disgusted that this is actually something people engage in and think it’s a good idea.

I am an old school man and a person people say has an old soul, but this is not something I would say I am for. It’s not for me and I am fine with that, but the issue I have is people want to spread this as something that is “healthy”. I had to find out what that word meant and it’s not in anyway, shape or form, what she claims that is. It literally mean one who is in mental, physical, and psychological health. Watching a partner have sex with another man and you get berated is something healthy? Not by my standard of health. Last time I heard the word healthy was at the doctor’s office. Healthy blood pressure he said and you are in good standing.

I even had to find a show that depicts this trash as something positive. A trash show called You’re The Worst which depicts people in dysfunctional relationships. In it you had a newly married couple who was going through a dry spell sexually. The wife was sleeping around on the husband with bouncers, bartenders, and anyone with a pulse. The straw that broke the camels back was when he suggest let’s divorce once he learned that she was cheating on him, but she didn’t want that and subsequently came up with the Cuckold idea. She spun it in a way that made him involved while she fulfills her sexual desires. I watched specifically these few episodes and I felt so sorry for the guy. The wife brought home mainly black men and they insulted him while having sex with his wife, with her doing insults also. Is this “healthy” you idiot?

He had the chance to leave that horrible relationship and potentially find someone who matched his sexual level, but he chose to stay with a hyper-sexual person who have no morals. It wasn’t this show specifically that upset me about this trash “healthy” concept, oh no. I had a friend right here on the Treasure Coast that this happened to. He had such low self-esteem that he chose to stay with his girlfriend and subjected himself to that. Where is he now? In prison because he attacked one of the guys his girlfriend started seeing behind his back, he found out and one thing led to another. I subsequently had a indirect encounter with this “healthy” method to spice a relationship and seeing it hurt a friend because someone couldn’t control their sexual urges or better yet breakup with the person they with end up hurting. This pain is what cause me to write this post.

Conclusion |

I understand that everyone is different and it may sound like I am shaming people who choose to be involved in this filth, it’s because I have no respect for those people. Do as you please, I am not God, but to normalize these things shows me how low the standards of things have fallen. One woman is enough for me, not for sex but as a partner. People these days tend to focus on sex and not the notion that there is a person that has their own thoughts and feelings. We as humans are not walking sex toys but compliments to each other. If you are not satisfied with your partner just leave and find someone else. If you can overlook you own selfish needs and work with your partner because it’s worth it, don’t you think that’s a better idea? Sex is not a bad thing, but in my own opinion love trumps sex any day. Imagine sex in a loving and healthy relationship where the person respects you. This society is just in the toilet.

Thanks for checking out this Real Talk post on What Is A Relationship? I realize I forgot the question sign in my design, but please don’t hold it against me. Please like, follow, and share as it helps me grow. To whom this may offend I genuinely don’t care. Take it easy!

Originally published at http://xagonspeaks.wordpress.com on February 6, 2020.